Are you often dissatisfied with how you are treated?
People will only treat you as you allow them to treat you. This is great news because you have a say in it.
I was the professional “nice guy”. I took the brunt of other’s misdirected anger, rarely turned down requests, and tried to just be pleasant even when I was disrespected or wasn’t listened to for years. I avoided conflict like the plague, which just led me to act passive-aggressively.
This immaturely and maladaptively communicated to myself and others that I was weak and I was a victim. It led to me being run all over. “They are just bad people” I would think. And I became angrier about how people treated me until I realized that it was mostly because of me.
I did not have healthy boundaries. And I had to take charge if I wanted to have healthy relationships for the…
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